How to Feel More Confident in Sexy Lingerie

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Life’s too short not to love every inch of you, but we all have days when we feel less than confident. But did you know that the clothes you wear can change the way you feel inside? 

Fashion psychologist and author of the book Dress Your Best Life, Dawn Karen, believes we should all “harness the power of clothes” to transform our lives. Talking in the Guardian, she says that ‘mood-enhancement dressing’ is so important, it forms the cornerstone of her therapy. 

According to Karen, the clothes we wear each day not only say a lot about how we feel, but they can also transform our moods for the better. We change into soft loungewear when we need some comfort, high heels when we want to feel powerful or colourful dresses if we want to cheer ourselves up. 

And the most powerful mood enhancer in our wardrobes? Sexy lingerie. They may be just delicate pieces of lace and mesh, but our smalls can make a significant difference to our emotional state, allowing us to feel sexy and more confident in the time it takes to put them on. 

Want to harness the life-changing magic of sexy lingerie for yourself but not sure where to begin? We asked the women of Pour Moi to share their top tips on how to feel confident in sexy lingerie. With their help (and a little advice from Pour Moi) you’ll soon be ready to slip into something more comfortable.

No matter how pretty the matching set looks in the picture, what really matters is how it feels on you. You won’t feel fun, fierce, or flirty if it gapes, digs in, or slips off your shoulders. The discomfort will show in both your face and in the way you carry yourself - not a recipe for supreme confidence. 

A good-fitting bra can be a real game changer when it comes to correcting your posture, while the right size and shape of briefs can enhance your curves in all the right places. Need some expert advice? Why not try our virtual fit service? It is free and can all be done over a video call (with no need to strip off!). 

Need any more encouragement that it is worth the effort to find your feel-good fit? Here’s what Kalifa from @sharp_clouds has to say about it...

If you’re always putting yourself last, it is time to make a change. Ignoring your own well-being isn’t a great strategy because if you don’t take care of you, it will diminish the contribution you can make to others. 

Self-care is intrinsically linked to our self-esteem. Confident people value themselves just as much as they do others and always take time out to do what makes them feel great. Just ask Ellie from @ellieayles...

Working out the style and cut that suits your shape and keeps you feeling comfortable is the key to finding the kind of lingerie that takes you from ‘afraid to turn the lights on’ to total boudoir glamourpuss. 

From knickers with a little frill that makes the most of your hips and booty (like the Amour Shorty) to a plunge push-up for extra oomph up top (like the Romance), who needs the gym? The right lingerie can boost your curves instantly, no squats required! Just have a look at our guide to dressing for your shape to find out more. 

Or take a tip from Chantelle @chantelleplusmodel on finding the lingerie that makes you feel sexy and confident...

Does your other half swoon when you’re wearing the novelty ‘sexy’ undies they bought you on Valentine’s Day, but you hate their scratchy, flimsy feel? Yes, it is nice to please our partners, but not when it comes at the expense of our own comfort and joy. 

The number one priority when it comes to sexy lingerie should be how it makes the person that’s wearing it feel! And, chances are, if that gorgeous basque makes you glow with confidence; you’ll both feel the benefit! 

Elina from @bellinapeachy has this to say about the importance of undressing to impress - yourself.

Trust us. Nothing makes you feel sexier and more confident than wearing a matching set under your clothes. These days, even t-shirt bras come with a touch of flirtatious lace and matching knickers in a variety of styles, from bikini to brazilian. Just look at the Romance Balconette T-shirt Bra with its matching Romance Briefs. Getting a set like this elevates even your everyday underwear into something extra special, helping you feel well-put-together before you’ve even put your clothes on. 

And if you’re wearing a skirt or dress, why not consider giving stockings and suspenders a go instead of tights? Not only could a set like the Bling It On Deep Suspender add a touch of glamour to your everyday attire, they can be more comfortable than tights when the weather gets warmer. Not convinced? Read our how to wear suspenders’ blog post to find out more. Here’s how Alice from @aliceiloves uses her lingerie sets to bring out her inner goddess.

Ready, set, glow! You’ve got the confidence, now all you need is the lingerie. From beautiful bodies to matching sets, our lingerie edit is here to help you shine like the star you are.